Posts Tagged ‘affirmation’

Why new year’s resolutions usually fail to work

Monday, January 11th, 2010

Many people make new year’s resolutions and many are already history, even this early into the new year.  And there’s a very simple reason this happens – the same reason that simple affirmations are largely ineffective.

When we decide to make a resolution or use an affirmation, we are using our conscious minds which process about 40 bits of information each second.  The problem is that our subconscious or unconscious minds process 40,000,000 bits of information each second.  That’s like pitting an old abacus against a modern supercomputer.  Our conscious mind has little chance against those odds.

Vintage abacuses
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It’s your unconscious mind that carries all the core beliefs that drive you.  You ‘installed’ 70% of these by the time you were 5 years old, and most of the rest by the time you were 10. These could be beliefs about how intelligent you are, how attractive, how sensitive, whatever.

You may want to consciously change the habits that these beliefs control, but your subconscious mind is running the ‘tapes’ of those old beliefs on an endless loop, and your subconscious works at a million times the speed of your conscious mind.  Simply making a resolution or saying an affirmation is like attacking an iceberg with a toothpick.  Not very effective.

In order to make lasting changes, you need to ‘reprogram’ those subconscious tapes, and there are now some very simple, powerful ways to do that.  I’ll outline one in my next posting.

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How to put affirmations on steroids

Wednesday, January 14th, 2009

Affirmations are designed to 'rewrite' your core beliefs to be much more productive (as opposed to self-destructive), but they can take an incredibly long time to take effect.  There is a much more powerful technique for ‘installing’ new affirmations/beliefs and releasing those that don’t serve you, and it takes only a few minutes to do.  What you need is a sheet of ruled paper.  To prepare for this, draw a vertical line down the middle of the paper to split the sheet into two equal columns, as shown below.  When you have 10-15 minutes of privacy where you’re doing nothing else, you can sit down and do this exercise.

Affirmations

What you need to do this exercise is a positive affirmation that you want to pass on to your unconscious.  This could be something like ‘I’m organized, effective and having fun at work,’ or ‘I’m adapting easily and effortlessly to change,’ or ‘ I’m healthy, fit, trim and energized at my ideal weight,’ or whatever works for you.  It needs to be a short statement of what you want to be, or want to be like, or want to believe.

You’ll start this exercise on the top line, in the left-hand column.  On that line, to the left of the vertical line that you drew, write the positive affirmation that you’ve chosen, and as you write it, say the affirmation to yourself in your head.  Then notice what pops up in your head – your internal dialog.  Be aware of the very first thing that you think or say to yourself.  Jot this down on the same line as your affirmation to the right of the vertical line that you drew.  What’s important here is to jot down the very first thought that pops into your head after you say/write the affirmation.  Accept whatever comes up and write it down.  It may be just a single word, or even a sound.  Just put it down.

Then, on the second line, to the left of the vertical line, rewrite the affirmation, right under where you wrote it before.  As you write it, silently say the affirmation to yourself in your head (ie: not out loud – just in your head).  Once again, be aware of the thoughts/words that pop into your head immediately after you write/say the affirmation, and jot it down in the second column, to the right of the vertical line, on the same line as the affirmation.

Immediately go to the third line and repeat this process, writing the affirmation on the left-hand side of the line and your first thought on the right-hand side.  Then to the next line and the next and so on until you finish the page.

What you are writing in the second column, to the right of the vertical line, is what is running around in your unconscious mind – the ‘tapes’ that are on auto-play every moment of your life.  Quite often, they will negate the affirmation, and be critical of it and/or of you.  I’ve found that often, as I proceed down the page, what comes up on the right-hand column can get downright nasty as you move down towards the center of the page.  It’s amazing what’s running around in our heads.  However, as you continue, you’ll find that what you write on the right-hand side then starts to shift to support the affirmation you keep writing in the left-hand column.

Give it a shot – what do you think?

How affirmations really work

Tuesday, January 13th, 2009

A belief is a statement of conviction, such as ‘it’s important to be polite,’ or ‘I can’t handle change,’ or ‘you can’t get ahead by cheating.’  Your core beliefs basically repeat like endless tapes in your unconscious mind, running over and over again, below your level of conscious awareness.  They guide all of your actions in your life.  Many of these beliefs serve you, and some hold you back, and most were installed by the time you were 10 – maybe even by age 5.  Those that can hold you back might not even be your own thoughts/words, but those of others who criticized you – criticisms you’ve taken on as your own: ‘I can’t learn anything.’  ‘I’m clumsy.’  ‘I only care about myself.’ 

It may seem strange to think that you’d carry such programming, but your unconscious mind takes you literally.  It has no sense of humour and it can’t judge if something is ‘good’ or ‘bad.’  Whatever you ‘tell’ it repeatedly with intense emotion (any emotion – ‘positive’ or ‘negative’) is taken as gospel.

Affirmations are one way of ‘installing’ new beliefs in your unconscious mind.  By repeating them, over and over, they can be ‘programmed’ into your unconscious.  However, there are two things that hold this process back and make it work very slowly.  First, it takes a lot of emotional investment and/or a lot of time/repetition to install new beliefs.  Second, those beliefs that are already running around in your unconscious are taking up your focus.  The moment you stop consciously thinking about your affirmation, those old tapes kick back into gear and can reverse all you did with the affirmation in seconds.